I’m sitting at The Ivy (all expenses paid by a soul I love more than my own) waiting (for the aforementioned soul to finish gracing Westminster’s sewers) and reflecting on human emotions and where they’re at their most observable. I’ve read somewhere, probably Grazia or Vogue or such other vapid advert runway, that human urges are truly at their most observable in restaurants. At this particular one, demonstrable appetites seem to have entered a ‘no-go’ zone. The plates are adorned with something that looks nowhere as nourishing as the price tag implied, almost barely the sapped essence of what we ordered. To observe an urge here would be to witness the paranormal, acknowledge ghosts exist and could be desired by size zero’s. What is observable in restaurants, workplaces (and everywhere else you’re thinking of) isn’t ‘urges’ at their purest, it’s constant ‘authored restraint’: That is: *Disguised emotions that imply urges without disturbing the immediate vicinity with emotional sound-waves that could incur attentions other than the calculated ones.* With enough practice the Pantone swatch of expressions we use to display ‘moderation’ and ‘self-possession’ becomes easier to browse through and identify. Consciously or otherwise. Good Emotional Intelligence and Body Language courses beyond what you’ll find in mainstream catalogues will push you to identify what informs the gestures or expressions we ourselves choose to use. Having attended those courses, and knowing the theory and consequences, I still opt for unrestrained everything. I am not doing the moment or my sweet company justice by authoring emotions. I want my life to reflect me at my raw-est. The dubious minds among you, dear readers, will equate this to ‘wearing one’s heart up one’s sleeve’; an ‘easy target’, ‘asking for it’. To those, all I can say is: ‘Get your face off my elbow so I can put it back in my sleeve.’ Transparent emotions don’t make victims, they make walking curses of those that try to bruise their bearers. More importantly, they make fulfilling lives for those that enjoy experiencing them.
I’m back, it’s been a while since I last blogged my musings instead of only sharing them on weekend evenings with good company and good generous helpings of grape elixirs.
This post (you’ll be grateful to know) is not one of my musings but a blog update. What do you think of my artwork? It can be seen and commented on here: http://alejandraarroyo.wordpress.com/portfolio/
My interest is growing for Psychology and Behavioural Economics. I have always been interested in Demographics but my background being Finance a crucial aspect was missing.
I was surprised by the revelation that, despite the enormity of both these subjects, what informs them and the people that theorise them, is the day-to-day thoughts and interactions WE RARELY ACKNOWLEDGE OUT LOUD.
Whether you are relating to friends, colleagues at a meeting, a partner or a person you have a crush on, the – sometimes subtle – thoughts that run through your head will strongly determine the progress and outcome of those relationships.
From “I can feel something in my nostril, let me stop this conversation and do a mirror check.” to “He left because I was boring and my breath stinks.” every one of those thoughts and focus-deviating ideas are routed in bigger mind matters such as, a past event that made us insecure or society’s take on “dumb” blond people.
Add all those countless interactions together, for each individual in any location, and you have an economy that thrives proportionally to HOW OPEN IT IS TO PERSONAL UNDERSTANDING.
I was hoping the capitals would help emphasize what I mean but I can now see they only make the post look ugly. Anyway,… ampler observations on the topics above are on their way. Thanks for reading : ).
Thought of the day, Sunday 24/11/2013. Like a soup but with words.
Most accept that someone’s affection can be bought with any such currencies as time, money, dieting or even a life.
The fact is that affection has freewill and that, inevitably, chaos ensues once any attempt is made at giving affection a value. A heart-rending truth is that once someone’s attention becomes overvalued, he or she will naturally not choose to deter others from giving away their time and money in return for it.
More wretched still is that faking affection for a price has now long become a fully fledged business model, following strong public demand.
This poignant documentary debates just that: is faking affection an acceptable business model? By return: is the celebrity culture any different?
The documentary leaves the door open to much more complex and involved debate around the age old question: is a business’ T&Cs fine print acceptable if it doesn’t require acknowledgement of the devastating implications of inflated attachment?
In Investment Finance, declaring risks is a big party pooper but one that financial regulators finally recognised as being crucial to maintaining healthy economies. Should the same be done to business models revolving around crucial life goals such as affection and self-worth?
EDIT: thanks for the tip :)! There is indeed a form to fill in! See:
This short “Thought of the Day” post presents a personal opinion on atheism and proposes opening a debate on the same. It is informed by personal experience resulting from an exploration of different faiths this past decade.
A Roman Catholic since I was a foetus, I rebelled by exploring spiritism, wicca, agnosticism and atheism in what I now know to be a search for the meaning of Life in the wrong place: others.
As a re-re-re-converted Roman Catholic version 4.1, I oftentimes reflect on past choices. Here’s a reflection on atheism.
Atheism aimed (what I think is a poorly constructed ideology) mostly against God and the hierarchy of the Church, lead by a Messiah. Atheism doesn’t exist as a faith in its own right but as an antagonistic belief that automatically opposes all divine, supernatural figures and their related rites. It also forgot that all organised society, and most of us in it, need role models and life advice. These are the reasons why I think atheism will never be valid to anyone beyond those seeking attention, social dissociation and recognition from self-appointed “analytical, down-to-earth minds” that curiously assume the same status and burdens that Church leaders have.
The trait that gives atheism away as a “rebellion without cause” is its failure to consider the great mysteries that are human conflict and context. Internal and environmental. Atheism failed to address the critical and humane needs to assert identity and answer existential questions. A topic that C. G. Jung explored in depth.
To live without wondering where everything originates from is to lead a half-life in my opinion.
Admittedly, it could be argued against the above that atheism does attempt to fill the existential void by turning to a divine figure that jealously guards all the answers to existence: science. A figure that will be channelled in due course by a saviour figure in lab robes and thick glasses.
I considered this (in more serious and unbiased terms) but it didn’t do much to amend my view of atheism’s purpose. Science to me is a tool, a methodology, nothing more.
Maybe this personal bias makes it difficult for me to accept (again) that there is any validity in the anthropocentric belief that is atheism. I’d need some reading or ideas on that and any reader’s feedback might help too : ). Please rate, comment, share much appreciated.
I love this little story, almost out of Aesop’s tales…
A Lesson From a Donkey
One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey.
He invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement he quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up. As the farmer’s neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!
Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping. Shake it off and take a step up.
Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred – Forgive.
2. Free your mind from worries – Most never happens.
3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less from people and more from the world and environment that surrounds you. The Oneness we belong into is ever-loving and full of possibility.
“Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect. It means you’ve decided to use the imperfections.”
A quick, yet rare thought with great potential: can language be compared to a viral infection?
I had this flashing thought this morning during breakfast by which I visualised language as a viral system evolving through contagion and repetition.
I have been researching viruses for another ebook I’m hoping to Kindle publish before I die and, I tell you… EVERYTHING on Earth that has some evolving to do behaves as if following the basic survival system viruses “use” (viruses being inert “beings”).
Language, through it’s DNA components (words) seems to behave like a virus: expressions are received by the host and modified through the host’s cognitive system at that particular time; the resulting mutation spreads via oral or written means and either maintains its meaning or changes it.
Adaptability is a key factor for rating word strenght (commonality). The longer an expression “survives” under the same meaning, the most likely it is to remain there for ever under the same semantic conditions. Also, the more meaning an expression or word can be attributed, the more it will be used and thus spread.
I have a few examples if you care for me to elaborate but I would also love to read your thoughts on this.
By the way… how has my thought evolved in your brain? Will this thought spread and perdure or evolve into something else or be completely erradicated…?